Self-esteem is a core identity issue, essential to personal validation, and our ability to experience joy.
Once achieved, it comes from the inside out. But it is assaulted or stunted from the outside in. A woman with low self-esteem does not feel good about herself because she has absorbed negative messages about women from various aspects of her surrounding culture, and potentially also from relationships with others.
The degree to which modern society prizes youth, beauty, and thinness dooms even many strong woman to eventual failure. Women’s magazines, starting with the teenage market, programs them to focus all their attention and effort on their appearance.
Many girls learn, by age 12, to drop formerly enjoyable activities in favour of the beauty treadmill leading to nowhere. They become fanatical about diets. They munch, like rabbits, on leaves without salad dressing, jog in ice storms, and swear they love it! Ads abound for cosmetic surgery, enticing us to “repair” our aging bodies as if the natural process of aging were an accident or a disease. Yet with all this effort, they still never feel like they are good enough.
A workshop is a set of activities designed to promote learning, discussion, and feedback about a topic or event, you have achieved this with the traditional get-together workshop, but online, all you need to do it logon to find other peoples views and suggestions about their life-changing ways into a better self.
Get better every day
Plan to do one thing each day that will help you improve physically, intellectually, emotionally, or even spiritually. Making just one change for the better will boost your emotional state and begin building a positive attitude that stay with you. You can actually choose what you want to change in this category first. Things you do most are the ones you need to focus on. A simple task won’t take that long.
Little things add up
It’s amazing, really. The seemingly meaningless things you do for yourself may not have immediate results, but after just a short period of time, they’ll have you looking and feeling better. So add those bubbles to your bath, make sure you eat your vegetables, get enough sleep, think of doing something nice when you have nothing to do, and the results will be worth it.
Mirrors don’t lie
Catty acquaintances can. Well-meaning friends might out of kindness or fear of hurting the friendship, but if you’ve got spinach in your teeth, your mirror will point it out. These things can be bothersome when you thought you were in your best but end up like this, so keep in mind about how to look best every time and enjoy its benefits.
If you just can’t get rid of that cowlick in your hair, that pimple on your nose, or those extra three pounds from yesterday’s buffet, just throw some gel in your hair, conceal that pimple the best you can, and wear something that’s not too clingy.
To get that attitude going the right way, you need to appreciate your face and body for what it is. It may be unrealistic to tell you to love it, but you certainly shouldn’t hate it. You definitely need to value what life has thrown at you. That’s easier said than done in this society of model adulation and unrealistic standards.
If you take a look at any two success stories and grasp the one element of similarity between them, you’ll notice that virtually every self-made, successful person has this one super-important object of success in their mind- a burning desire to succeed. What counts is your frame of mind. Age, location, ethnic origin, gender, or any other individuality have absolutely no part in your attitude to become what you desire.